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I will never qualify as a ‘twu’ slave

I will never qualify as a ‘twu’ slave, according to the internet. When you live with someone, no matter the dynamic, things like PMS, work, teenagers, family, and just plain snarky moods happen. I strive for perfection, but live in reality. That means sometimes I’m snarky, sometimes I don’t do my job, sometimes I’m not

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What is Transparency?

The dictionary defines ‘transparency’ as “the quality or state of being transparent.” Transparent is defined as “easy to see through, understand, or recognize; obvious.” How does that correlate to being transparent in a relationship? Ultimate relationship transparency means that you reveal all of your true self to your partner. Nothing hidden. It creates a deeper

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What is Due Diligence?

You will see me use the phrase ‘due diligence’ a lot in my writing. It is something I believe in very strongly. And something that most people don’t do, which always just amazes me. In both the online world and in real life, I see dominants and submissives both jumping into all of this D/s

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Saying no…a lesson in personal power and submission

I am writing this from a male dominant/female submissive perspective because that is my world view. However, I believe that it applies to any combination of dominant and submissive. I am not intentionally excluding anyone, just using specific pronouns for ease of writing. When I first became aware of the online world of BDSM, I

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