2013 Reflection

Each year, as the year comes to a close, I reflect on the ending year and make goals for the coming year. This year, as I reflect, has been both better and worse than years past. And I’m so ready for it to be over.

We started 2013 with Sir hospitalized and on life support – heart attack, anoxic brain injury, and seizures. There were many days that we didn’t know what would happen – if he would recover or if we would lose him. After over 12 weeks in 3 different hospitals, he came home in a wheelchair and had to learn to not only walk again, but really to do most everything again. His neuropsych evaluation this fall showed amazing cognitive recovery, although he still has a bit to go. He’s back in rehab again and making strides toward being released for work and driving again. There is so much to be grateful for in 2013 and to look forward to in 2014.

After competing in the Arizona Master/slave contest, we were both a little bummed and also a bit thankful to have dodged a bullet by not winning, even though the scoring was apparently just a handful of points apart. We were saddened to learn that our good friends who won had ended their relationship. But we’re excited to have been asked to step up to fulfill title and to be competing in the SWLC Master/slave contest of 2014. A lot stressful, but also a fun time getting ready to compete in January.

  • In 2013, we created a new family and moved into a home together.
  • We received an incredible outpouring of support from the local community and our East Coast family, not just in raising funds, but in emotional and physical support.
  • Our older daughter got married and gave us our first grandchildren – one an amazing 7yo stepgrandson and the other a pretty awesome almost-1yo granddaughter.
  • Bratgirl, who is now 19, had some trying times, but overall has made huge strides towards the positive in 2013, and has some realistic and attainable goals for 2014.
  • My dad, who has been battling stage-4 lung cancer for almost 6 years, has lived to see another year.
  • My youngest brother came home from the Pacific Northwest and is now living with us as well.
  • I am still employed by a great company, we still have awesome health insurance, and starting tomorrow I have new vacation and sick time available to me after using mine all up this year.
  • There is always food in the cupboards, our refrigerators overflow, and no one goes hungry.
  • Just as our car was about to take another dive on us, we were gifted with a new (to us) car that drives like a dream.
  • We have people who love us, a place to call home, and the things we need to live each day.

But my heart is heavy as I reflect on all of this today, as our East Coast/Southern community has lost one of our own way too soon. Nef talked about trying to come out for SWLC to be our handler for the contest, although we were pretty sure that wouldn’t happen with his recent acceptance to the school of his dreams. Our hearts break for his loss, not only for friends and family, but for our own Lady B who held him close to her own heart and loved him. Today we are holding them both in our hearts, both smiling for having known him, and crying for having lost him way too soon.

I’m so ready for 2013 to just be over and to have a new start in 2014. So let’s put this hardest year I’ve had so far to bed and wake up tomorrow with clear skies and a new chapter to write.

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